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Which One do You Like: Waffles or Spaghetti?

God created human as the most perfect creature among the other creatures in the world. Furthermore, God created all humans in the world differently, they have their own uniqueness. There is none who exactly likes someone else because everyone has special character. Without any exception men and women are having different characters. Just like Bill and Pam Farrel, American couple writer who write a lot of book about people’s characteristic, said in one of their book, “Men are like waffles, women are like spaghetti.” Actually this statement is not talking about physical appearance of men and women, but it is about their general attitude and their way of thinking, or mindset. “Men are like waffles”, it means men will live their lives inside “squares”. If you observed a waffle, you will realize that it consists of many squares that are separated from each other. Men’s mindset is divided inside the “squares” which have only one aspect in each. On the other hand, women are able to make connection between two or more aspect with other aspect in their lives. It is just like a plate of spaghetti. If you ever observe spaghetti you will see that every long thin piece of spaghetti is connecting to each others. Let me give you a simple illustration, when my father is busy with his job task he will not do or think about something else which is not related to that particular task. Unlike my father, my mother can do different activities in the same time. She prepares to cook while doing laundry using washing machine. This illustration is just a little explanation about the differences of men’s and women’s mindset. Based on my analysis, these differences give a profound influence in their lives that make both men and women are different in the way they communicate, work and interact. Well, let me inform you about those three differences to help us distinguish the characters of men and women.

            Men and women are different in the way they communicate. At least there are three things that help us to understand their differences in the way they communicate. First, when men communicate they will talk about the most important thing immediately. They like to get straight to the point, instead of speak around like women. Unlike men, women love to talk around many different topics in a conversation rather than go straight forward. Second, men generally feel comfortable with a conversation which has certain point and has a purpose of relaying information by using literal terms. Women, by contrast, enjoy talking for the sake of it only because they want to. They also like to use dramatic vocabulary to fully express and relate their feeling. The third dissimilarity is about men and women ability to connect various topics in a chat. Men will focus on one particular topic in their one “square”. For example, when some “waffles” have a conversation about a motorcycle; they will always focus on the topic about motorcycle during their conversation. Conversely, women do not only like to build a conversation, but also like to connect some topics in a conversation. “Spaghetti” is commonly able to connect a long thin piece of motorcycle with another piece of love, family, career or the other topic, within one conversation. For those three differences, I conclude that men differ from women with respect to men are not as communicative as women.

            Men and women are not only different in the way they communicate but also the way they work in a workplace. In this case I will show you two dissimilarities working style between men and women. First, men will feel be appreciated by their work partners if they can give the best solution to solve the problem. Unlike men, women will feel satisfied if their support and help in doing the solution can solve the problem. From those differences, actually men and women completed each other well to make a good work in their workplace. Second, men love to have their abilities recognized and appreciated, while women love to have their feelings recognized and appreciated. That is the reason why men prefer to work on their own and singlehandedly to train their skills and show their accomplishment. On the other hand, women like to collaborate with a person or group in order to share their feelings through interactive communication with one another. However, this difference does not mean that men are more independent than women. It proves their own natures that men are keen on stay in “square”, that is why men like to focus on a “square” to finish their work without help from anyone else. Differ from men, women natures are keen on connecting various aspects in their minds so that they do not only need to finish their job in workplace but also need an interaction with others.

            Men and women differences do not end with the way they communicate and their working style in workplace. Men and women interaction in a relationship also will show their unique characters. When a man is in troubled time, they will not let his partner to concern about him. If his partner asked him, “What’s wrong with you, are you okay?” He will prefer to say that everything is alright, instead of sharing their problem and show his weakness. It will be a good response, if women just trust in him, then just give support and admire him for their strength to overcome every problem. Whereas a women will feel be loved if her partner is always available to listen to her whenever she needs to share her problem. Besides, a woman expects that her partner is a wise man who understands and knows her needs and wants without waiting to be asked. Those two different attitudes prove that men need to feel that their attentions are needed. In contrast, women need to feel that their needed are attended. Moreover, men love to stay in “square” which help them to feel success. It will be a great moment if women can let their partner free to choose one particular activity that they like as a plan to do on the weekend. Nevertheless, if men want to have an excellent moment with women, they should strive to listen without being defensive and try to surf every long piece of “spaghetti” in women’s minds. After we know their interactions and characters, I can say that all of the distinctiveness between men and women are not a problem for making a beautiful relationship.

            Well, those are three discrepancies between men and women can help us to be aware of the uniqueness between them. First, we can conclude that men and women differs with respect to men are not as communicative as women. Second, men and women have their own working style. Men love to work by themselves and show their abilities to prove their success in workplace. In contrast, women prefer to share their feeling by work in group to finish their job. The third dissimilarity can be found in men and women relationship. Men need to feel that their attention is needed. In contrast, women need to feel that their needs are attended, so that there should be love and respect in the communication between men and women. Thus, I conclude that all of those three differences are the aspects that be influenced by their unique mindsets. By the way, you do not need to answer the question from the title above because there is no one who better than other; everyone has their own special characters which have to be respected.